Hi friends, welcome back to Absolutely Azanique. The past two weeks or so have been INSANE to say the least. In the midst of such a busy time of the year, conference after forum after summit after meetings, while connecting with many strong, successful, women professionals, I found myself wondering “When was it that I found my voice?” So many times we hear the successful women & men we look up to say they found their voice once they wrote book or taught their first college class or landed a huge job in D.C. – but what about me?
For us normal people, meaning not super famous or successful yet, it may be hard to think about finding your voice or why your voice matters when you can’t reach millions of Twitter followers, get hundreds of views on your Instagram videos or thousands of screenshots on your Snapchat stories. But the truth is, the earlier you find your voice, the better it will be for yourself and your future influencers. I wondered, how can I help someone find their voice now, when they are yearning to be heard and yearning to be acknowledged and yearning to be understood.
So, back to this title. How I found my voice as a ___________________.
Ugh, I know you’re tired. Well girl I feel ya! Finding the energy to workout after a hectic day, demanding week or a long streak of missing workouts is not easy – but it can be much more fun than you think! Here’s how I start/get back to my workout routine.
1. Experiment! If you’re like me at all, doing the same workout day in & day out gets soooooooo boring. Not only is it boring, you’re not giving your body the chance to explore new things and push to new limits. So try out many things! Many people will tell you the only way to lose weight is to go to the gym every single day, doing awful workouts that you hate & wear embarrassing colorful spandex. WRONG! There are so many ways to get in a good workout and have fun. One way I pump up my workout dread is by going to Zumba. For those of you who haven’t tried it, you are really missing out. Zumba is a dance fitness aerobic program that uses mainly Latin American and some hip hop songs to get you movin‘ & I love it! Not only do you usually make friends, it’s a great way to sweat it out without feeling like you’re actually working out.
*Sigh*, the stuff no one wants to talk about or help you through. Personally, I’ve dealt with many times from not getting the job I want, getting negative feedback/pushback on a project I’ve been working on, being told my work isn’t good enough and so on and so on. Being a college student in general, I definitely believe that in your 4 years (or 5 or 7 or 10), you will feel like you’ve “failed” multiple times or like a reject, but here’s how you don’t let it discourage you.
1. Sit down & breathe! I know, sometimes your first instinct after you fall down, is to jump immediately up and try again, but have you taken a second
Have you given yourself enough time to recover before going after that goal again? If you haven’t, why not? Consider taking just a few seconds to breathe, regroup and get your mind together.
If you are someone who uses visualizations to relax, find some. If you pray in times of distress, bow your head. If you normally write out all your frustrations and worries, grab your journal. No matter how you deal with issues, deal with them first before you become so quick to jump up.